Visiting Salvation: The Woman In the Mirror
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Today’s author is Doris, who started caring for her mother Carmen, 87, shortly after Carmen’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis in 2006. Doris and I are old friends, having met at work in New York City in the early 1990s. Doris is an amazing woman with much to share about a different kind of parenthood.
Thank you for reading.
Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s is often a stressful, depressing and emotional rollercoaster. But every once in a while you find a little bit of humor that stays with you. Such is the case of one Saturday morning. On this particular morning I woke up to voices stemming from my mother’s room. At first I thought it may be my mother talking to my father. But it wasn’t. As I approached her room and slightly opened her bedroom door, I could see my mother sitting on the edge of the bed. Nothing strange about that. She was facing her dresser mirror. Again nothing strange about that. I stood at the door and watched. My mother was having a conversation with her reflection in the mirror. It went something like this:
Mom: Where is my husband?
Mom: do you know where is my husband?
Mom: You don’t know?
Mom: (a little tension in her voice now) I …s a I d w h e r e I s m y h u s b a n d???
At this point I could barely hold my laughter and walked in and put my arms around her. She looked at me and said: “I am asking my friend if she knows where my husband is and she doesn’t answer. I told her it was because she did not know.”
This was the start of many other conversations with her friend in the mirror. For several months after that, every time she saw herself in the mirror she would smile and say hello to her “friend” or “the old lady”.
I tell this story often and it always brings a smile.
Thank you Doris.
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