Six Months in Their Room and The Best Parenting Decision I Ever Made
We are now six months in Montreal. I’ll show you what I’ve changed since the first two weeks, what works, what STILL doesn’t work and how much it cost. (Canadian winter. I have spent a lot of time indoors.)
Arlo’s Room BEFORE
Farrah’s Room BEFORE
Arlo and Farrah’s Room AFTER!
In the first two weeks I set up Arlo’s room so he could have space to hang out by himself but Arlo never did that. I set up his room for what I thought a five-year-old would want, but I should have set it up for what Arlo wants and what Arlo wants is company.
My husband was always keen on the kids sharing a room but with a 3+ year age difference it felt out of reach. Plus Farrah wasn’t sleeping through the night and we didn’t want her to disturb Arlo’s slumber. So when we moved to Montreal we rented a three-bedroom apartment and put Farrah in the back sunroom. But I should have set Farrah up for what Farrah wants and what Farrah wants is company.
I always felt uneasy about this configuration too; Farrah Star all alone in the furthest room from me, surrounded by windows and doors.
So one day I heeded my maternal instincts and put them in the same room. I just did it. I bought a twin mattress off craigslist and thought if didn’t work – if no one slept or if Arlo protested – I’d only be out one mattress from craigslist.
Everything. The kids are happy. They play. They sleep. Arlo puts clips in Farrah’s hair when it hangs in her eyes. Farrah wakes him up every morning to read to her and he happily does it. This is the best parenting decision I ever made.
The decorating pales in comparison to the love up there, but here are some pics anyway:
The same rules apply as before: no noise, no toys; but there is a bit more punch and color to engage them when they do spend time up there, which they do, a lot more than ever before. They sit and read together or they throw their dolls and stuffed animals against the ceiling. It’s all good.
What Doesn’t Work:
We rent a three-bedroom, two-and-a-half bath but live in a two-bedroom, one-bath. Convenient when visitors come, but for the other 50 weeks a year it is pure waste and I feel sick about it. Now that we know we are happy in a two-bedroom, we will have to make a serious decision at the end of our two-year lease.
$100 mattress, $6 plants, $5 sheet = $111
Thanks for looking. I consider home-making my profession – it is certainly my passion – and I appreciate your feedback. I would also like to know about your experience with kids sharing a bedroom. Was it an easy decision? Did it work out? At what age and how did they separate? Share in the Comments!