Damn, I Wish I Was Your Mother
Damn, why haven’t you and I talked about this yet?
“Baby Girl on the Way for Sophie B. Hawkins – at 50!”
The singer — who is already mom to a 6-year-old son, Dashiell — is pregnant with a baby girl after being implanted with her own frozen embryo (sperm was provided by a donor). “I found Dashiell really needs a sibling,” Hawkins tells PEOPLE of her decision to have another child. “My son has one parent who’s 50. I want him to have a family of young people too!”
Before becoming pregnant, Hawkins faced fears because of her age and the fact that she is newly single.
“I went through waking up crying and saying, ‘Am I too old? Will I suddenly at 51 have my knees give out?’” she admits. “Now I don’t have any of those fears because I feel healthy and strong. I’m also setting up a good net of support, and that’s the key to anybody having a child.”
Hawkins says her age was not a concern for doctors because she had frozen embryos at the age of 31, was in good physical health and had a healthy first child.
“For me, the main decision was emotional,” she says. “I’ve been wanting to have a child since Dashiell was 1, but I was working too much and there was a lot going on in my relationship.”
The “Damn, I Wish I Was Your Lover” singer, who identifies as omnisexual, says now she is more than ready to raise a baby alone.
“I interviewed a lot of divorced women and they said, ‘It’s so much easier to do it alone. You don’t have the pressure or the criticism or judgment of someone else.’ Of course then you ask, ‘Will I miss the emotional support?’ Well, to tell you the truth, I’m getting that more from my friends than I ever got in a relationship.”
– Gabrielle Olya
More siblings, larger tribe, bigger village
Healthy body, healthy mind, healthy emotions
That’s my take-away but I’m biased. What do you think about Sophie B.?